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Why Blogging Is The Best Job Ever (To Me)

Put simply, I am a stay at home mom blogger and work from home wife. The thing is though, it’s really not so simple at all. That still doesn’t mean it’s not the best job to me though.

There are two important roles I play in my everyday life that I consider my highest responsibilities right now. And that’s being the best stay at home mom, and the bestwork from home wife I can be. For myself, for my daughter and for my husband.

PERSPECTIVE || Like I wrote about in My Business & Blogging Background Story, I have ALWAYS have worked from home. I spent only a few years working for a local cable company at their call center. But even that was in front of a PC, talking to people all day (and at home part-time). So I really was MEANT to be the work-from-home, be-my-own-boss type. It makes sense that I would be the “stay at home” mom, too. Especially since she is a newborn, our first and probably the only child I will have. And trust me, I DO understand that it is not for everybody.

 

 

JOB #1 || BEING A Stay At Home Mom

 

For the first time, I’m going to write about how I feel about being a stay at home mom. I’ll start by saying that it is indeed a job. There is a lot of change and adjustment that happens when you have a newborn enter your life. And they constantly change, especially this first year of life. Every day they learn how to something new and it shifts your whole world out of place again.

What takes the most effort is keeping the routine, some kind of schedule for the kid so she can function well throughout the day and maintain a level of comfort and happiness. It was REALLY hard to create the right routine because I had to find what my most natural routine was for myself and then add a baby to the mix with her leading the way. I knew I’d feed her about every two hours, but as a stay at home mom, guess what? You get to feed on demand, and that’s what’s best for baby. So there many times throughout the day where I stop what I’m doing and to feed her. I also thought I’d have time to get a break from mom duties when she’s down for a nap. But nap times can be a total chore of its own for being the easiest and most “relaxing” part of the day. Sure. I never know how SHE will react every day, but I do know how I will react. And that’s to try stick to the routine, but be flexible and patience!

The biggest emotional toll that being a stay at home mom takes from me, is the constant mental engagement that children take. You can’t just leave children (especially babies) to fend for themselves. They have to be fed, put to sleep, played with, loved on, cuddled, taught, on and on. That is if you want to have a happy find who finds joy in routine and thus, will learn to respect my role not just as her mother, but her father’s wife and a work from home business owner. It’s a constant give and takes though. She’s a baby so me setting the tone now, I believe will help her develop good time management skills also.

For example, mornings before her first nap, are for quiet time. We get up together and I go outside to let dogs out, pour myself a coffee, and make her a bottle. I lay her down to feed herself and then get to work nearby on the PC. I keep on eye on her of course, but she sits and plays where her toys quietly. I try to keep the noisy ones up and away, and just leave out different toys she can interact with quietly. Most days, I can get a good amount done in the mornings so at least, if the rest of the day I get nothing else done but love the kid, I got some work done.

There are days that nothing goes as planned, I might have to spend an entire week only working at night when the baby is (finally) asleep because of growth spurts, teething, feeling grumpy and out of sorts, sick, whatever the reason is that baby needs my attention ALL DAY. Those are the days that I’m thankful I’m not alone in my life, and that I have a loving husband and family nearby to help give me and baby some extra help.

 


JOB #2 || Being A Work From Home Wife

 

We aren’t lucky enough to live in a world where the money comes easily, and my husband works really hard to keep us floating along financially. As much as I love being a stay at home mom, the baby doesn’t pay well. In fact, she’s quite the expense monthly. So I could work to make barely enough to cover childcare. Or I work really hard for myself, at home.

Being my own boss is no joke.

There isn’t a single part of blogging that isn’t managed by me. I act as the content creator, website designer, sales manager, marketing strategist, you name it I do it. It’s all me.

Although my blog doesn’t bring in much in the way of money, it will eventually as I build this business. Enough so that by the time she should be going to school, my husband can take part in his dream of homeschooling. Something he has always wanted for his children.

This is my end goal honest: For my photography and blog businesses bring in enough of an income that I work full time from home, while my husband is home during the week to homes school. Of course, he could take up side jobs during the weekend too, sure. But in the end, we have about four years of dedication to the businesses growth. The sacrifice of this goal together though, is that it will take time to build the businesses. While he brings in the solid paychecks, for now, our financial life is still in need of a lot of growth and that takes a lot of time.

Apart from being a mom and my own blog boss, I have to also take care of the homestead. Making sure the house is kept, the chores are done, and the bills paid. To say the least, it really is a job all in itself. Especially since our move while is honestly only temporary until we can find a place of our very own. Thankfully I’m not on a serious time crunch living with my mom.

 


Blogging Is The Best Job Ever

 

To say the least I have a complicated job. These roles of being a mother, wife, and housekeeper are hard to balance.

But I love it. There’s nothing else I’d rather do. I’m ultimately living my dream here, right now!

 

I have the man of my dreams.
The most amazing daughter.
Great loving and protective dogs.
A wonderful and supportive family.
Silly but fabulously loyal friends.
The Blogging Community is fantastic.
I live in this beautiful Evergreen State.

 


Why Blogging Is The Best Job Ever

Summary

 

I really do have every reason in the world to be living a loving life. And to have made my job to share it with the world and help others like me, parents and bloggers. It’s my passion and my purpose. To share love, connect others, and be of help to the human race.

So yes, although it is difficult to balance and especially to manage. And at times I miss my own deadlines or have to skip an entire week of blogging or go months without a photo shoot. But I’m just doing better and better at it all because I’m doing it. Practice. I’m no noob or amateur here. Although I’m not a pro at anything (yet) either. I’ll get there though.

I’m going to live this out like I’m already there.

Because I am. This is why I have the best job in the world. A mother, wife, and blogger.

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A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

This is an account of my positive and healthy birthing story of my daughter, CJ. This was a planned pregnancy, where her birth was at the hospital. Although my original (and adored) OBGYN Doctor was unavailable at the time of my birth, the hospital staff luckily took my Birthing Plan very seriously.

Perspective || This was originally written just a couple of days after her birth. I have since updated it to post here. Please note that her real name is hidden online for her own personal security, CJ is just a nickname. 

I was diagnosed with a short cervix, which means I was at risk of preterm labor. Other than that I had a pretty good pregnancy. I didn’t always think I’d be a mother, but when I met the love of my life. I knew I wanted a family with him. After 9 years together, and 3 years of marriage we got a serious case of baby fever and decided to make a baby.

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Choosing To Remain In Love

Choosing To Remain In Love

I’m going to take a shot here and admit what I truly think is a key factor to being in a happy,  long-term relationship with any partner. Put simply, I believe that love is a choice and that you must consciously choose to remain in love.

 

That’s right, you read correctly.
You choose to remain in love, each and every day.

 

There’s something to be said about your brain when you are in love.

When you are in love with someone, you produce lovely peptides that grant you chemical boosts of love hormones and other chemical reactions. You also may experience pleasant emotions by being near or with your partner. If you’re physically “in love” (aka addicted) to your partner, then you will believe instinctually that you are in love. This may sound silly, but do you really believe that you’re in love?

If you believe that you are in love emotionally, physically and mentally then maybe you can understand that this was a choice after all. You chose to allow yourself to fall in love with someone. There’s a level of the surrender of Will to being in love, and unknown and uncontrolled factor to this falling into love with someone. Put simply, there are people you cannot help but love.

That “I like him/her” feeling you got right from the start, your attraction to them physically and all that jazz. Yes, that’s all stuff you can’t help. But at some point you chose to continue to like them, to advance on your level of attraction with them and to dance with them to that jazz. If you ask me, the chemistry between beings does not change over time. This is a subconscious physical effect that people of the right magnetism has on you. But what you can do is consciously choose how you react to them.

So they key here is to realize that, keeping a relationship fresh takes conscious effort. A continuous choice of surrendering your will to the person you commit your love to. You do have to keep choosing to remain in love.

It sounds crazy like it’s a chore to stay in a state of love but honestly, it is… You must consciously continue to choose love.

 

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