Tag: loving life

3 Steps to More Productive Screen Time In Your Life

Recently I have realized my lack of self care and am trying to change my habits. I spent the last few weeks reflecting on my life (in this recent Jupiter Retrograde the last few days especially), I feel I made huge progress within my self already!

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Breastfeeding Journey 3-6 Months [Update]

In this breastfeeding update, I’m writing about the breastfeeding experience during the age of three to six months old. I want to go into the bad parts, and then celebrate the good parts in regards to breastfeeding a baby. How has the adjustment been to a child in our lives for over six months now? And how I feel about continue breastfeeding until my baby is two years old.

I’ll start by summarizing what I have learned so far.

Breastfeeding is hard.
&& I love breastfeeding.

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CJ Is 6 Months Old! [Update]

I’ll be honest in saying I’m emotional Mama this morning as I wake up and realize that my baby is now 6 months old! I feel like this is may be the most important birthday. Let me tell you why…

I didn’t rock pregnancy. There’s a reason why it’s been 13 months of her existence, and I don’t have a single “pregnancy” post. I carried great, and although I was diagnosed with a short cervix at 24 weeks (and was at risk of preterm labor), there were no complications with my pregnancy or labor. (You can read our Positive Birthing Story here.) I just didn’t much like being pregnant.

GETTING TO KNOW ME || As a toddler myself, I loved playing with dolls and then bossing around my sisters when they came along. But as a teen, I had decided that getting married and having babies wasn’t for me. I didn’t grow up obsessed with “cute babies”, in fact, my sisters were much more interested than I, in small babies and kids. It wasn’t until I met my husband that we would even consider getting married. He too didn’t think there was much reason for it. Until 2015, after six years, we kind of just started planning the wedding and before we knew it we were calling in the troops and making reservations for our 3 day wedding in the woods! When a roommate had a baby, I began babysitting while she worked and I fell in love. I got baby fever so, so bad. Or so, so good. Because I remember rolling over in bed one night, and looked into my loving husband’s eyes when I said with a cute grin, “I want to have a baby, Baby.”

His reaction was unforgettable. He smiled at me, that huge, loving smile with his eyes lit up, “Okay Baby, we’ll make a baby then.” And it was that simple! We had decided in that moment, that we were going to try for a baby.

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A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

This is an account of my positive and healthy birthing story of my daughter, CJ. This was a planned pregnancy, where her birth was at the hospital. Although my original (and adored) OBGYN Doctor was unavailable at the time of my birth, the hospital staff luckily took my Birthing Plan very seriously.

Perspective || This was originally written just a couple of days after her birth. I have since updated it to post here. Please note that her real name is hidden online for her own personal security, CJ is just a nickname. 

I was diagnosed with a short cervix, which means I was at risk of preterm labor. Other than that I had a pretty good pregnancy. I didn’t always think I’d be a mother, but when I met the love of my life. I knew I wanted a family with him. After 9 years together, and 3 years of marriage we got a serious case of baby fever and decided to make a baby.

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Choosing To Remain In Love

Choosing To Remain In Love

I’m going to take a shot here and admit what I truly think is a key factor to being in a happy,  long-term relationship with any partner. Put simply, I believe that love is a choice and that you must consciously choose to remain in love.

 

That’s right, you read correctly.
You choose to remain in love, each and every day.

 

There’s something to be said about your brain when you are in love.

When you are in love with someone, you produce lovely peptides that grant you chemical boosts of love hormones and other chemical reactions. You also may experience pleasant emotions by being near or with your partner. If you’re physically “in love” (aka addicted) to your partner, then you will believe instinctually that you are in love. This may sound silly, but do you really believe that you’re in love?

If you believe that you are in love emotionally, physically and mentally then maybe you can understand that this was a choice after all. You chose to allow yourself to fall in love with someone. There’s a level of the surrender of Will to being in love, and unknown and uncontrolled factor to this falling into love with someone. Put simply, there are people you cannot help but love.

That “I like him/her” feeling you got right from the start, your attraction to them physically and all that jazz. Yes, that’s all stuff you can’t help. But at some point you chose to continue to like them, to advance on your level of attraction with them and to dance with them to that jazz. If you ask me, the chemistry between beings does not change over time. This is a subconscious physical effect that people of the right magnetism has on you. But what you can do is consciously choose how you react to them.

So they key here is to realize that, keeping a relationship fresh takes conscious effort. A continuous choice of surrendering your will to the person you commit your love to. You do have to keep choosing to remain in love.

It sounds crazy like it’s a chore to stay in a state of love but honestly, it is… You must consciously continue to choose love.

 

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