Tag: friendship

What To Do When Your Friends Are Making Bad Life Choices

What To Do When Your Friends Are Making Bad Life Choices

We all make mistakes, sure. But sometimes there are people in our lives that are making bad life choices. So what can we do as their friend to influence them?

I wrote a previous post about how to “tolerate people”. I recommend checking that out first to ensure we’re all on the same page here because it’s important to understand how we got to this serious question I’m about to tackle. It’s called How I Tolerate People and Their “Issues” (opens in new window for you).

Okay, so you tolerate your friends and you expect them to have some issues. But there is a limit, there’s always a limit guys. It’s one thing to agree to disagree and walk away. It’s another to watch someone else make serious mistakes. Especially someone you care about and are close to.

Where is the limit? Personal boundaries can vary widely from person to person. Sometimes you find those with short fuses and some with long ones. I have a seriously long fuse guys, it takes a lot to get me upset and I tolerate a lot before I get to a point of being upset. So my limits on those around me, are pretty far stretched because of… Well, you’ve read the previous post.

 

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A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

A Positive Hospital Child Birth Story

This is an account of my positive and healthy birthing story of my daughter, CJ. This was a planned pregnancy, where her birth was at the hospital. Although my original (and adored) OBGYN Doctor was unavailable at the time of my birth, the hospital staff luckily took my Birthing Plan very seriously.

Perspective || This was originally written just a couple of days after her birth. I have since updated it to post here. Please note that her real name is hidden online for her own personal security, CJ is just a nickname. 

I was diagnosed with a short cervix, which means I was at risk of preterm labor. Other than that I had a pretty good pregnancy. I didn’t always think I’d be a mother, but when I met the love of my life. I knew I wanted a family with him. After 9 years together, and 3 years of marriage we got a serious case of baby fever and decided to make a baby.

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Top 10 Tips to Maintain Long Term Friendship

Top 10 Tips to Maintain Long Term Friendship

Here are my top ten tips on how to maintain long-term friendship. Some things are simple with friends and some things are not. Understanding how you like to be treated can go a long way in being a good friend to those you care about the most. These are things that I try to do consistently for my friends. I have found that those in my life that I consider my friends too, do some or most of these things for me in return. It’s nice to make people feel comfortable. But it’s so much better if you can make your closest friends feel loved and appreciated.

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How to Tolerate People and Their Issues

How to Tolerate People and Their Issues

One thing I get asked a lot is how I can tolerate people so much from the people in my life? I plan to answer that as simply as I can today.

First of all, when I gain a new friend, someone I plan to get to know and spend time with: I expect them to be a long-term friend. Granted, there’s a difference between an acquaintance and a friend. So when I say friend, I always mean someone that I plan to be involved with long term.

With that said I also expect them to have faults and for us to have differences. It makes people more enjoyable when you have a variety of people in your life. I find pleasure in finding out what those differences are and getting to know people’s thoughts about things in general. ? Sure, occasionally we completely disagree, and that’s okay. Again, that’s okay.

Finally, I understand that life has its ups and downs and that I’m not the only one who experiences them. I know going into any relationship that there will be trials. So if we accept those upcoming trials, then going through those times together is going to be a challenge to our friendship.

 

 


But first, I have a question for you:

How do people in your life tolerate you?  ?

 

[wp-svg-icons icon=”spell-check” wrap=”i”] TOLERATE = allow the existence, occurrence, or practice of (something that one does not necessarily like or agree with) without interference

 

 


Still, the question remains,
“How Do I Tolerate People? … “

This question indicates that there are issues. Straight up, everyone has issues. Issues with self, with family, with other people. And sometimes those issues are specific to experiences such as work, drama, or anxiety.

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