Month: July 2019

Emotional Healing From Feelings Buried Alive

Emotional Healing From Feelings Buried Alive

I remember so much about my life. From the beginning, to now and into the future even. I can’t say how much control I have of my thoughts, although I have become more mindful about observing them. I have begun to train and rewire my brain and body with conscious effort. The trouble is, now I know that the bodymind can store memories and emotions. Did you know the heart thinks?

 

During my self-healing journey, I have been on a mission to purge my life of everything that no longer serves a purpose in my future. I have been restoring my house and routines into order. As well as my mental space and heart wounds. This, my friends, was the hard part.

A new kind of emotional awareness of my mental patterns started to take place. As I worked with my body’s energies, I started to really notice in my meditations where exactly i was hurting. When I drop into my own little world of calm and connected meditation, I scan my body. I notice the little uncomfortable places, my posture, the pull of gravity, and any soreness. Some of these areas, I note to address later on. Others, I know are pains and weaknesses I have had for a very long time. Why is that?

I was having an inner battle with my ego, my dark side, traumatic memories in my conscious awareness. The more I focused on one area of pain or weakness, the more I began to think about these negative thoughts and memories. Like I said earlier, you only have so much control of your thoughts. My heart hurt, real bad.

Even in recent posts, I have talked about how I have been visiting my past timeline. Going “back in time” to forgive myself and others for things that happened. I have realized that indeed, everything happens for a reason and that reason is, I am who I am now. And I love who I am now!

Additionally, I want to know more about myself and who I really am, so that I can love more of myself. Although this has worked fantastically for most of my most difficult memories. – Memories that I am easily able to recall, identify, resonate with, and learn from. – It’s easier to be grateful for things that have happened to you if you have learned a valuable lesson from them. Even if they were difficult at the time.

It’s the memories you’ve held on to for so long, that they hurt to even start to think about… So you do everything you can to avoid thinking about them, and there you go… Burying them deep within your heart, mind, and thus your body. Creating these weak spots in your organs, muscles, tissues, joints, whichever one carries the closest or most harmonious frequency of the emotional energy being expressed.

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The problem with burying your feelings alive…

The science here is that our bodies are mostly water. Water stores information and conducts electricity, traveling through our nervous system. This makes emotional entrapment within the bodies fluids possible in such a way that your physical body remembers your traumatic experience throughout the body. Whenever you consciously begin to think about or remember your trauma, your body triggers reactions to release the trapped emotional memory and information, especially if it’s just settled beneath your skin from previous attempts at recent emotional release.

Every time you override this emotional release, all the old and all the new emotional energy that you create overcomes your body, mind, and spirit. You begin to process all this information, but your ego and mental self doesn’t want to process or remember this trauma. So you consciously tell your body to ditch this experience and suppress the emotional memory. Without a way to release this negative emotional experience, your body starts to trap the information. The energy comes together as your mind thinks of other things as a distraction. The emotional energy relocates in the place of the body most synchronized to the vibration of the emotion.

Energy Medicine can now locate and identify different emotions by organ or area of the body. We can also identify emotional trauma by which area of the body is in pain or unwell. By Energy Testing, or Muscle Testing, our bodies are capable of telling us what emotional trauma is weakening us.

Early in my self-diagnosis phase, I had a few places in my body I knew that were causing me pain for so long I’ve almost forgotten about it (talk about living with the pain). And I knew also, that I had plenty of recurring emotional habits, that seemed to erupt in me on a daily basis.

The hard part wasn’t noting my aches and pains in my body, or even admitting which negative emotions and habits I needed to change.

It was dealing with the memories and conflicting emotions about the people involved in these events… Once I started to focus on one part of the body or one emotion. I am always how shocked at how quickly my mind reacts. So quickly, does my mind go to the dark side and begin to drift deep within these difficult remembrances. How vividly I can remember some things, and how hard it is to recall what happened in others. The voices of loved once, my own ego, and my logical mind were at war for days, as I processed so many emotional memories.

 

I know that the more I let these emotional memories come to the surface…

The more I was going to remember, which meant the more I was going to be able to process and learn from them.

The more I was going to be able to discover the Truth and begin to Accept the Value of my Life’s Experiences & Lessons.

 

I worked through a good number of things quickly. Coming full circle, and forgiving myself and others along the way. Particularly if they are still a part of my life, or I could make a quick phone call to say, “Hey I’m sorry for this, I’ve really spent a lot of time thinking about it over the years. So know that I learned a lot from everything, and I have no regrets. I appreciate you and our friendship and always will. Thanks for being part of me.” My people have been so loving and respectful. A few times, they too had something they always wanted to tell me. And we have this great little chat, and feel tons better afterward! (Okay, so maybe others too more than a quick chat, what can I say?)

 

Some other valuable lessons I’ve recently learned: 

  • It’s better to have loved and lost than to never to have loved at all
  • Time and distance don’t matter when it comes to love, or shall I say it my own crude way, “Time and distance don’t give a fuck”. Let’s just be real
  • Ask the right questions and you’ll get the right answers
  • If no one asks the questions then no one ever knows – I choose to know
  • If the warning signs are still the same as they were then the rules of the game haven’t changed
  • Ask and you shall receive, if you never ask you never receive – so I will always ask
  • Everyone has free will and life is not linear – you choose your own fate
  • Unconditional love will always leave a way for the dark to see the light, even if it’s so dim you can’t see it until your close – knowing the light exists is enough
  • You can’t save everyone but you always have the opportunity to save yourself – this is instinctual and primal by nature

 

Corny dad joke anyone? 

How many healers does it take to change the dim lightbulb? One, but they have to WANT to be in the light. 

 

 

The heart likes to talk!

The magic is when you start to notice how much better you feel physically. And how much clearer you think about yourself, other people, and your memories. Even the bad memories, once you forgive, accept and learn from them. It’s a whole new world to explore because there are not anymore (or as many, I should say) negatively Trapped Emotions. So when you think about it again, you don’t get this overwhelming surge of emotions. You can just think about them with much more ease and control. Easily pulling the lessons and moments that you want to identify with at any time. Or, pushing those thoughts away without worry of old emotions. How is that?

We now know scientifically, that it’s not actually just your brain that thinks and makes decisions for you based off of your emotions. Your brain actually can act independently from your brain and creates its own electrical impulses. Have you ever noticed how quickly your heart responds to your feelings? It’s not just a coincidence that you immediately react with your heart. It would make sense then that before you can even think (with your brain) that your heart is already thumping in response to shock or excitement. It’s no surprise to me then that caring and compassion would greatly triumph over anger or frustration, lasting longer and sending stronger signals through your body. A little love can go a long way. This also indicates a serious impact to heartache or heartbreak. Are you capable of love if you are flooded with emotional pain from your heart? Maybe this is why can say, “Love is blind,” because when you think with your heart over your brain during heartbreak, you actually are mentally blinded from thinking clearly.

 


Sources:

The Physiological and Psychological Effects of Compassion and Anger, Glen Rein; Mike Atkinson; Rollin McCraty, Ph.D. Journal of Advancement in Medicine. 1995 ( https://www.heartmath.org/research/research-library/basic/physiological-and-psychological-effects-of-compassion-and-anger/ )

Recommended Reads

(*Amazon Affiliate Disclaimer: By using my link you will be taken to Amazon and I receive a small commission, thank you for supporting my blog in this way – this book changed my life and I’ll forever recommend it to anyone dealing with emotions or interested in knowing how our bodies and minds work together as a single unit! This will help you to understand the science behind what you feel and what emotions actually are.

Book Reco: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K Truman
Recommended Book for Emotional Healing: Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Karol K Truman

Feelings Buried Alive Never Die… by Karol K Truman (1995)

Karol Truman provides a comprehensive and enlightening resource for getting in touch with unresolved feelings which, she explains, can distort not only happiness but also health and well-being. Leaving no emotion unnamed, and in fact listing around 750 labels for feelings, Truman helps identify problem areas, and offers a “script” to help process the feelings, replacing the negative feeling with a new, positive outlook. A chapter on the possible emotions below the surface in various physical ailments gives the reader plenty to work with on a deep healing level. FEELINGS BURIED ALIVE NEVER DIE combines a supportive, common-sense, results-oriented approach to a problem that is widespread and that can stop people from living fully.

 

Molecules of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine
Book Reco: Molecules of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine by Candace Pert

Molecules Of Emotion: The Science Behind Mind-Body Medicine – by Candace Pert PhD
Why do we feel the way we feel? How do our thoughts and emotions affect our health? Are our bodies and minds distinct from each other or do they function together as parts of an interconnected system? In her groundbreaking book Molecules of Emotion, Candace Pert provides startling and decisive answers to these and other challenging questions that scientists and philosophers have pondered for centuries. Her pioneering research on how the chemicals inside our bodies form a dynamic information network, linking mind and body, is not only provocative, it is revolutionary. By establishing the biomolecular basis for our emotions and explaining these new scientific developments in a clear and accessible way, Pert empowers us to understand ourselves, our feelings, and the connection between our minds and our bodies — body-minds — in ways we could never possibly have imagined before. Molecules of Emotion is a landmark work, full of insight and wisdom and possessing that rare power to change the way we see the world and ourselves

 


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With a lot of love and a little help I truly believe that emotional healing is extremely impactful to your mental health and physical well being.

Comment below? How do you feel about this?

How are you feeling emotionally? Mentally?

Forgiveness Causes Emotional Healing

Forgiveness Causes Emotional Healing

Dear Hugin and Munin,

 

 

During my self-healing journey, I have been on a mission to purge my life of everything that no longer serves a purpose in my future. I have been restoring my house and routines into order. As well as my mental space. This, my friends, was the hard part.

A new kind of emotional awareness of my mental patterns started to take place. As I worked with my body’s energies, I started to really notice in my meditations where exactly where in my body, that I was hurting. When I drop into my own little world of calm and connected, I scan my body. I notice the little uncomfortable places, my posture, the pull of gravity, and any soreness. Some of these areas, I note to address later note. Others, I know are pains and weaknesses I have had for a very long time.

 

I think about and remember so much about my life. From the beginning, now and into the future even in some moments. I can’t say how much control I have of my thoughts, although I have become more mindful about observing them. I have begun to train and rewire my brain with conscious effort.

Why is that?

I was having an inner battle with my ego, my dark side (what I learned), traumatic memories in my conscious awareness. The more I focused on one area of pain or weakness, the more I began to think about these negative thoughts and memories. Like I said earlier, you only have so much control of your thoughts. My Heart hurt, Real bad.

Even in posts, I have talked about how I have been visiting my past timeline. Going “back in time” to forgive my self and others for things that happened. I have realized that indeed, everything happens for a reason and that reason is, I am who I am NOW. And I love who I AM NOW!

Additionally, I want to know more about myself and who I really am, so that I can love even more of myself. This has worked fantastically for my memories, if not most, of my most difficult memories. Those that I am easily able to recall, identify, resonate with, and learn from.

It’s easier to be Grateful for things that have happened to you if you have learned a valuable lesson from them. Even if they were difficult at the time.

It’s the memories you’ve held on to for so long, that they hurt to even start to think about. So you do everything you can to avoid thinking about them, and there you go. Burying them deep within your mind, and thus your body. Creating these weak spots in your body and organs, whichever one carries the closest or most harmonious frequency of the emotional energy. That’s where the emotion will get trapped and cause pain, and eventually, the illness will occur in the organ that stores these negative charges.

The result of accepting and forgiving yourself is the realization that you have the Inner Strength to not only Survive but Overcome. Loving your inner enemies for helping you to learn who amazing you are, how unique you are, and sometimes even – Reveal the Greatest Treasure. The secrets to your own life’s purpose, who you are designed to help, understand and empathize with for the Greater Good.

One of the most interesting videos that helped me accept these traumatic relationships (especially in the beginning) is this video.

Disclaimer: This is not exactly scientific, but has been widely accepted by most consciously aware of the shift of energy global awareness

Video: The truth about soul contracts… by Aaron Doughty

 

Here’s the problem with burying your feelings alive…

Your physical body remembers your traumatic experience throughout our fleshy body or vessel. Whenever you consciously begin to think about or remember your trauma, your body triggers reactions to release the trapped emotional memory and information from where it is being stored, especially if it’s just settled beneath your skin from previous attempts at recent emotional release. (And the cycle continues.)

Each time your body releases emotions it’s like a balloon, and eventually, all the chemicals of that emotion are released at once. We know from drug studies of all kinds that we’re great at building immunity, tolerance, and this is primarily because we’re so smart. Whatever our body needs more of, it creates in excess for the next time. The more recent the release, the more it makes for next time. Do you see how your emotional energy grows?

In this way, the organ or flesh that is storing this trapped energy, is becoming disabled and falls into illness if it goes unreleased.

Every time you override this emotional release, all the old and all the new emotional energy that you create overcomes your body, mind, and spirit.

You begin to process all this information, but your ego and mental self doesn’t want to process or remember this trauma. So you consciously tell your body to ditch this experience and suppress the emotional memory. Without a way to release this negative emotional experience, your body starts to trap the information. The energy comes together as your mind thinks of other things as a distraction. The emotional energy relocates in the place of the body most synchronized to the vibration of the emotion.

Energy Medicine can now locate and identify different emotions by organ or area of the body. We can also identify emotional trauma by which area of the body is in pain or unwell. By Energy Testing, or Muscle Testing, our bodies are capable of telling us what emotional trauma is weakening us.

Recommended Books | Releasing Emotional Patterns With Essential Oils by Mein, and Feelings Buried Alive Never Die by Truman

 

Early in my self-diagnosis phase, I had a few places in my body I knew that were causing me pain for so long I’ve almost forgotten about it (talk about living with the pain). And I knew also, that I had plenty of recurring emotional habits, that seemed to erupt in me on a daily basis. Once I admitted them to myself openly, with a good intention for change and personal development. It was quite easy to know which bad habits formed which negative emotional reactions in my day to day life.

The hard part wasn’t noting my aches and pains in my body, or even admitting which negative emotions and habits I needed to change.

 

I knew though, that the more I let these emotional memories come to the surface.

The more I was going to remember, which meant the more I was going to be able to process and learn from.

The more I was going to be able to discover the truth and begin to accept the value of my life’s experiences.

 

It was dealing with the memories and conflicting emotions about the people involved in these events. Once I started to focus on one part of the body or one emotion. I am always shocked at how quickly my mind reacts. So quickly, does my mind go to the dark side and begin to drift deep within these difficult remembrances. How vividly I can remember some things, and how hard it is to recall what happened in others.

The voices of loved ones, my own ego, and my logical mind were at war for days, as I processed so many emotional memories.

I knew though, that the more I let these emotional memories come to the surface. The more I was going to remember, which meant the more I was going to be able to process and learn from this. The more I was going to be able to discover the truth and begin to accept the value of my life’s experiences.

I worked through a good number of things quickly. Coming full circle, and forgiving myself and others along the way. Particularly if they are still a part of my life, or I could make a quick phone call to say, “Hey I’m sorry for this, I’ve really spent a lot of time thinking about it over the years. So please know now, that I learned a lot from everything that happened, and I have no regrets. I appreciate you and our friendship. Thanks for being part of me.”

 

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The Heart Likes to Think & Talk Too

People have been so loving and respectful. A few times, they too had something they always wanted to tell me. And we have this great little chat, and feel tons better afterward! Or, weeks… and it’s hard, it’s Emotional, but even Heartache can heal with a little time, honesty, willingness, and unconditional love.

The magic is when you start to notice how much better you feel physically. And how much clearer you think about yourself, other people, and your memories. Even the bad ones, once you forgive, accept and learn from them. It’s a whole new world to explore because there are not Negatively Charged Trapped Emotions lingering just below the surface.

So when you think about this memory or person again, you don’t get this overwhelming surge of emotions. You can just think about them with much more ease and control. Easily pulling the lessons and moments that you want to identify with at any time.

 

For me right now, this is extremely powerful because I am on a mission to purge my life of everything that doesn’t suit me moving forward. And to do that, I am carefully touching each item I own, each person in my life, each memory in my mind and choosing to keep only that which brings me joy. I’ll talk a lot more about this but for now. Let’s just say I have a very good idea of exactly what and who brings me the most joy. My mind is free to explore, expand, and create.

Read Post: My Quest For Joy In Everyday Life

 

We now know scientifically, that it’s not actually just your brain that thinks and makes decisions for you based on your emotions.

Your Heart can actually act independently from your brain and creates its own electrical impulses. In fact, your Triple Warmer Meridian that governs your fight/flight/freeze responses takes energy from all other systems except your Heart Meridian! Have you ever noticed how quickly your heart responds to your feelings? It’s not just a coincidence that you immediately react with your heart. This makes sense then that before you can even think (with your brain) that your heart is already thumping in response to shock or excitement.

It’s no surprise to me then that caring and compassion would greatly triumph over anger or frustration, lasting longer and sending stronger signals through your body (and mind).

A little love can go a long way. This also indicates a serious impact to heartache or heartbreak. Are you capable of love if you are flooded with emotional pain from your heart? Maybe… this is why can say, “Love is blind,” because when you think with your heart over your brain during heartbreak, you actually are mentally blinded from thinking clearly because of your emotional response habits from your heart center.

Some are memories are harder than others to process, but with a lot of love and a little help. I truly believe that emotional healing is extremely impactful to your mental health and physical wellbeing. Many of my upcoming posts are going to be explaining in more detail how and why all this is so important to you and your future.

 

 


Resources

The Physiological and Psychological Effects of Compassion and Anger: https://www.heartmath.org/research/research-library/basic/physiological-and-psychological-effects-of-compassion-and-anger/ 

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Have you forgiven yourself for things you would have done differently now? Are you grateful for your life as it is RIGHT NOW?

Dear Blog Buddy, Mindful Update from the Woods

Vicky! 

I can’t even begin to thank you for how much you have inspired me as a human, blogger, and friend. I have been going through so much emotionally, and it really started with this mindfulness talk on your blog: CrunchyLeavesandSunsets.co.uk

See, I do this thing with topics that I find interesting.

I will read a history book and a book of lore and read them as equals. I will read science journals and spiritual texts as equals. Not deciding what I believe or is true to me, if I do not experience something myself that proves itself in life. And thus, I really take in a lot of information, much of which is inconsistent and are simply theories, thoughts, ideas. it’s so rare that I come across enough compounding evidence and facts that align just so that I can believe it! When this happens, it’s magic.

When I stumbled upon you so many things happened in the Blog Buddy Program. But behind all this, your blog niche in itself has changed my life.

Reading your posts and learning about mindfulness, practicing this and meditation regularly has… Wow. I expect my own blog can speak for itself right now on how deep I’ve been getting.

That said, I’ve dug hard into mindfulness and I think one of the best books so far has been Living In Balance. Which the title in itself, pretty much explains my current life goal in its entirety. Sums it all up in 3 words.

Anyways, definitely a worthwhile book read.

I am sitting here in Beverly Beach, Oregon on a camping trip with my family. A bit of a “family reunion” actually. What’s really kind of funny is that in one of my previous letters, the Fabulous App told me to take a day or a week off of data and mobile and was like NOPE. But this week, I’ve barely had to use a phone (music for the kid) and I loaded up the laptop with only the Buddy Program Email Course to finish and nothing else (it’s new to me). At camp, we’ve had no service or wifi so it’s been extremely peaceful. Super thankful for this week without all the jazz of the internet and the overwhelm that blogging can be. A near total unplugs, but wait. I’m writing a Dear Blog Buddy Post and finishing the Buddy Program, but hey. It’s only keys and a screen, no more no less. And it feels good, to be able to have someone like you to write to at this moment and be able to share with you my work. And that my work will be seen by the same people that might take an interest in the Blogging Buddies or the Program. How cool is that?

In short, I know I’ve been kind of off in the distance, or the stars more like. But, it’s all for mindful progress in self-healing, and it’s been successful. My mind and heart and soul is making a turning point for the better.

My intuition for this blog and BBP is on track for success and I’m SO stoked for what comes next with this launch!

And within my own life and relationships, taking the most mindful and heartfelt approach. It blows my mind how much unconditional love I have for blogging, you, bloggers, and me, and everything and everyone that has something to say. Anything at all to say that is positive, uplifting, inspiring, thoughtful, insightful, intelligent, intuitive, etc.

Self Healing Symptoms & Struggles Revealed

Self Healing Symptoms & Struggles Revealed

I’ve been going through some massive self-diagnosis of my physical body. I’ve also been purging my things, even my friends that are no longer (or have never) brought me joy. This has all been very difficult! I want to share some of the most important lessons with everyone so far because I think they are massively important (and affecting) many people right now! Maybe as a reader, You too, are trying to deal with your inner feelings coming to the surface recently. This is one of those brutally honest posts. Real life. Pain and love and passion. So here are many of my symptoms and struggles I am addressing with Self Healing, the most natural of all methods of vitality wellness and mental health.  

 

My Physical Aches & Pains Symptoms List:

  • Tightness, a knot in the very top of my spine and base of the head
  • Shoulder pain
  • Pour posture, specifically mid, right back – twists down and to the left
  • Heartache feels like I have a really big open wound in the top, left area of my heart
  • Inner thighs, I’m extremely sensitive and extremely sour here all the time
  • Lower back vertebrae, at base of my spine
  • My ankles are weak, specifically, my right ankle that I’ve always been terribly prone to twisting repeatedly (I used to jump off a lot of high playsets and swings and ledges when I was young and so, so tough…)
  • Although I don’t find myself with a weight problem, I am definitely heavier than ever after having a baby by about 20 pounds. I’d be super happy to lose about 30, but a loss of 35 would be great. Let’s get real, I was 165 when I had the baby, and I am now 178. So I definitely gained a lot even after giving birth. My pre-birth weight was 150. So, there ya go. Some TMI
  • Low sex drive and interest in sharing or touching others, particularly more the last few years than other yaers previously

 

I’ve Dealing With Emotions From Bad Memories or People

I feel the urge to push them back down but because I’m trying to heal, I’ve let all these emotions rise up to the surface…

I don’t know about you, but I can tell you from the heart that this was not always a good heart in here. I’ve had some dark times and dealt very deeply with lying, manipulation, and cheating. About 5 years ago something triggered all of these things being revealed to the friends that meant the most to me in my entire life! They “found out” the truth about me, and I don’t fully understand how… But my (now husband) boyfriend came back to me. I promised to myself then that I would not lie, cheat or steal again.

 

 

The last five years I have been struggling to:

  • Prove to myself and everyone in my life that I am living with integrity (not lying)
  • Prove to my Lover that I am trustworthy and true to him (not cheating)
  • Have any close female relationships
  • Limiting my friendships with other males (part of proving my love right?)
  • Limiting myself to fun, engaging, or potentially “threatening” circumstances (dare I have fun)

We can see when it’s written out that this is, well. Sad. I’m tired of this feeling of not being enough, or deserving of friends or relationships.

 

 

What I’ve Been Doing to Help Myself Heal Naturally

  • I began to try to forgive myself for these things that I did
  • I started to remember and revisit my memories in my mind
  • I created a simple stretching routine for myself to release built-up tension in my body
  • I dove into Energy Medicine and started consciously interacting with my bodies meridians, chakras, and subtle energy
  • I began to think about the people I hurt, or who have hurt me, more individually
  • Untangled from the emotions, I can begin to remember who they really are, what they did, what memories there are.
  • I began to understand the negative emotions I had, and who and where they came from
  • I remembered some of my old dreams, visions, fantasies, desires, moments of passion or drama
  • I could better recall and understand the symbols, archetypes, patterns, and eventually the questions (identifying, what I didn’t know)
  • The root cause of the aches and pains began to work to release from my body on a daily basis with mental intention towards self-healing
  • I started intuitively cutting the cords with individuals, memories, or events that caused me negativity. Being very final in my decisions to not hold on to anything that was not bringing me joy. It quickly became very apparent to me, who exactly that I was holding onto, and in fact, did not want to cut ties with.
  • Which made me miss these people I cared about, intensely. A longing I didn’t at first understand. Particularly my best friends! I’m sure you can understand… This made it easy to want to reach out to them, and mend our relationship. No matter how emotionally confusing or mentally draining it might be.
  • I started to reach out to those in my mind, and in my environment, and my past and speak with them personally (if I could). I knew if they didn’t respond, or had passed away then it would be impossible to talk to them physically. I was accepting that some people may not want to talk to me, hear my apology, or be forgiven. So with an open heart and mind, I have approached the people that mean the most to me and my life.

 

I had a powerful experience in releasing emotions with my mom recently. I forgave myself for all of the lies I told, using essential oils with my mom a few weeks ago. The pain in my neck from the lies, along with the guilt/shame feelings are GONE. I realized too that the negativity was gone, associated with these lies… I could remember the good stuff again! I quickly got over that fear or “forgetting” them for this reason. I know I won’t ever forget anything that happened to me. But I do know now, that it’s possible to look back and not feel bad.

 

There are a couple of really important reasons I am going through this healing process.

  1. I am remembering the person that I truly am meant to be
  2. I am forgiving myself for the person I once was because of what it taught me about myself (what not to be)
  3. My mind is a storage unit that can be cleaned out and maintained with awareness and conscious effort to forgive and let emotions flow naturally
  4. My body is a vessel, a vehicle, that I must clean and maintain or it will fail to bring me further into the future (morality)
  5. My soul speaks to me through my emotions, and I want to listen to them instead of being controlled by them!
  6. Telling myself I’m okay is really only okay if I’m okay. If I’m not okay, then I need to deal with that first, so that I can be okay! If I really am okay, then let it be as it is and don’t make it something it’s not
  7. I do not want to cause myself or others harm. Forgiving others must come from a selfless place of acceptance and gratitude. If you are not ready to be thankful for everything that has happened to you because of what you learned from it. Then you need to learn from those things, otherwise, they are trapped within you. Causing any unnecessary pain and suffering is no longer an option.
  8. The truth is a double-edged sword that must be wielded properly and with honor. People will only ever be hurt by the truth if they are untrue within themselves. If you are willing to listen to the truth, then they have the potential to accept it as truth. This is only possible if the truth is revealed.
  9. I am an honest person living in balance. It’s important that you be truly honest, and open with yourself. Sometimes things within are raw, harsh, and hurt a lot. Let it hurt and find the source, the root. Feeling those emotions and working within your heart to forgive yourself!
  10. Making amends with the people that I care about will not only help me to heal but extend to their own healing journey. If you can, you should tell the people you hurt the truth about what happened, why it happened, and what you learned from it. Tell them honestly and the potential of being forgiven is higher than ever. (Trust me. If they can forgive me… They can forgive you…)
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Granted, there are some people who I can not reach. But others, are out there trying to heal from the same things. Maybe even those same moments in time. You mise well make amends with the people you love. You mise well hear people out and let them change into something better! And you mise well quit trying to help the people who don’t want it! Because there are people out there that deserve to be your friend. And you deserve to be theirs! Don’t let your buried, trapped emotions keep you confined. or caged!

I’ll definitely keep you all updated about what happens to me, and what I find out about the emotional healing process.

 

Thanks for any kind words, encouragement, advice, or resources you might like to share in the comments. It’s not easy. But it’s been a magical experience so far.